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I don't like guns.

Obviously, this means I don't own a gun. And I don't let my partner have a gun, either - that would be a dealbreaker, in my house. Love me or love guns, but I can't allow you to love both.

It goes a bit farther than that, however - I don't believe guns should be legal, other than hunting weapons.

The right wing squawks about guns not killing people, people kill people, yada yada yada.

Bullshit. People with guns kill people, and at far higher rates than people without guns. You are more likely to die in a home invasion if there is a gun in your house. Suicidal people are far more likely to die if there is a gun in their home. Domestic violence incidents are much more likely to turn deadly if there is a gun in the home. You name a form of violence, and you can be pretty sure that a gun nearby increases the likelihood of it happening.

So I don't like guns.

This doesn't go over well in Texas, where it seems that more people have guns than don't.

Now, I also believe in "live and let live," so generally I don't preach my anti-gun stance at people. It's sort of a necessary thing, unless I want to spend a lot of time arguing with people who are convinced that my anti-gun position means that I am a pinko American-hating Commie (well, I *am* a socialist, but that's an entirely different diatribe). But I will answer when asked directly about my position.

And my position includes the belief that most gun owners out there are deluded. I've heard the arguments about self-protection, and they don't sway me. You're more likely to die if you're toting a gun than if you're not.

I worry, sometimes, about all the guns around me that I can't see. I mean, I live in an apartment complex, after all - I've no doubt that many of my neighbors have guns. And that makes me feel unsafe. As I've said before, we're all only one bad day away from irreversible decision. And I worry that one day I, or one of my loved ones, may come across someone with a gun having that one bad day.

Rationally, I know there's not a damned thing I can do about this. Gun, knife, car accident, random act of God - we all can be on our last day on earth and never know about it.

But why increase our chances? Why keep around implements that serve no purpose but to kill? They say that God helps those that help themselves, so maybe God sees the gun and helps you along...

For most of you gun-lovers out there, I'm probably wrong. You *probably* won't die because you own a gun. But some of you will, and I will mourn you.

I work with dangerous people. Even if I weren't working with inmates, the acutely mentally ill are often at higher risk for perpetrating gun violence. Not all, of course, and not even most. But some. I, along with the rest of my school community, was reminded of this by the recent murder-suicide by a client of a graduate of our program who killed our graduate's husband and then himself. Would this have happened if he hadn't been able to get access to a gun? Maybe. But it would have been a hell of a lot less likely. As would the numerous school shootings over the last ten years perpetrated by young people who all too easily got their hands on guns.

I firmly believe that you shouldn't be able to grab a Glock to go with your gallon of milk at Wal-mart. I firmly believe that there is no purpose for automatic weapons other than killing human beings. And I firmly believe that all guns outside of the police and the military should be illegal other than basic hunting rifles.

And you will not convince me otherwise.

Get rid of the guns. Pass the potatoes, not the ammunition. Your children will thank you.

I am in a runoff this week for LJ Idol; voting link will go up some time tomorrow. If you want to keep me alive, please vote!
supremegoddessofall: (gay terror alert)
Someone wrote "queer" on my car the other day.

Honestly, I have no idea how long it was there - it was my girlfriend who noticed it.

We were getting in the car, headed off to pick up a friend. I got in, but she stood there for a minute and stared at the passenger side door.

"Did you know someone wrote in the dust on your car?"

No, I hadn't.

But they had. Someone had written "queer," and someone (else? the same person?) had then attempted to erase it.

Part of me is curious as to who did it, and why. Was it a neighbor? Someone at school? If, so, who? One of my students? A peer?

And was it designed to be an insult, or a compliment?

I mean, I am, after all, queer. A dyke, a byke, a lesbian-identified woman, a pansexual, a Kinsey 5....I am all of those things, so I can truly be upset if someone else labels me as such?

And yet...

We still live in a world where kids play "smear the queer" as children. Where "queer" is a slur hurled at those who dare to be variant in their gender presentation or love interest. Where "queers" are sometimes beaten, tied to fences, and left to die.

A world where, because I am "queer," I can be fired in many states simply for being perceived as queer. A world where I cannot marry, and am not guaranteed many of the basic rights non-queer people take for granted.

And so I do wonder who decided to whisper queer onto my car. And I wonder what they meant by it. Was it an affirmation of who I am? Or was it yet another way in which to designate me as different, as other.

**********

When I was 20 years old and discovering my political self, Matthew Shepard was murdered shortly before National Coming Out Day (NCOD). At the time, I was heavily involved in the LGBT organization at my school. We already had an event planned for NCOD, and while we were unwilling to allow the tragedy to overshadow what was meant to be a celebration of our lives, we also couldn't ignore it.

And so I was chosen to be the voice of our group. The voice of my people. This is what I said that day, and what was broadcast on the news:

Let me tell you a story: Last week, late Tuesday or early Wednesday in Laramie, Wyoming, two men, Russell Henderson and Aaron Mckinney, drove off from a bar in a truck with a young man named Matthew Shepard. Once inside the truck, they beat Matthew, then drove to the outskirts of Laramie. There, they proceeded to tie him, crucifix style, to a fence, and beat him some more. Then they burned him with cigarettes, smashed in the back of his skull with a handgun, and left him to die. When he was found late Wednesday afternoon, almost eighteen hours after
the ordeal began, the bicyclists who rescued him first thought that he was a scarecrow, dangling and strapped to the fence. Early Monday morning, Matthew died in the hospital, having never regained consciousness.

What did Matthew do to "provoke" this? He embarrassed one of the men. Let me say that again--he embarrassed one of them. Matthew was gay. He made the mistake of making a pass at one of the men. And they killed him for it.

Matthew's killers will be tried for first-degree murder, robbery, and kidnapping. But they will not be charged with committing a hate crime. Wyoming, along with several other states, including New York, has yet to pass hate-crime legislation including hate crimes committed because of real or perceived sexual orientatino. And thus the true reason Matthew
Shepard was murdered will not be entered into the lawbooks. Make no doubtabout it--Matthew Shepard was killed because he was gay.

Why do we tell you this story, especially on today, of all days? Today is supposed to be a celebration, a marking of all the progress we have made. Today we celebrate the tenth anniversary of Coming Out Day. But how can we celebrate, how can we feel we've accomplished anything, when things like this still happen?

Today is the day where queer people all over the country take the step, or celebrate having taken the step, to come out of the closet. To stop hiding, stop pretending. To stop changing pronouns when talking about the people we love. To feel proud of who we are and who we love,
instead of ashamed.

I strongly fear that many of our brothers and sisters may want to return to the safety of that closet. To feel that they have to make a choice between being gay and staying alive.

But we cannot go back, now more than ever. Rather, we need to come out stronger and more often. If we are as visible as we can be, if every gay man and woman came out, perhaps we wouldn't seem so isolated, so few. It's easier to fear and hate what you do not now. And as long as we remain closeted, we shall forever be the other.

We are your mothers and fathers, your brothers and sisters, your aunts and uncles, your cousins, your friends, your neighbors, and your classmates. We are old and young, fat and thin, healthy and not, rich and poor. We are lesbians and gays, bisexuals and transgendereds, fags and dykes, butches and femmes, queers and queens. And we have always been here. Someone you love, right now, is queer. And they are struggling. Let them know that you love them. Make them feel safe. And make sure that we never have another young man or woman die like Matthew Shepard did.

We'd like to ask that everyone in the Union participate in a minute of silence in memory of Matthew Shepard and the countless thousands of gay men and women who have also been murdered whose names are unknown.


You'll be glad to know that the thousand or so onlookers did indeed observe a minute of silence.

***********

I gave that speech more than ten years ago. So much has changed in that time, but so much remains to be changed.

So I will remain watchful, remain vigilant. Sometimes the whisperers don't stop at cowardly writing. Sometimes they come with knives. Or with guns.

It would be easy to remain hidden. As a femme, I often am not visible as a queer woman. It would be a simple matter to allow myself to be perceived as heterosexual.

But I cannot. Or rather, I will not. I will wear my "queer flag" on my sleeve, and I will wear it proudly.

I cannot countenance doing otherwise, as long as my brothers and sisters who can't pass as easily for "straight" do not have the luxury that I do. So I stand in solidarity. I refuse to change pronouns. I speak about my wife, and I use that language to do so. I out myself whenever appropriate, to as many people as appropriate.

Because they need to know we're here, even when they don't think they can see us.

And I won't stop. Not until "queer" is no longer a whispered insult.

Even if that means that sometimes I get "queer" written on my car.

Which I haven't washed. And don't plan to any time in the near future, either.

Let them see I'm queer.

And let them see I won't back down.

I am indeed here. I am indeed queer.

And you better well get used to it.
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My partner's father is incarcerated for first-degree murder.

For life, without the possibility of parole. Seeing as how he's in his 60's and not in the best of health, we expect that he'll die in there.

Now, this isn't a case of "getting screwed by the man" or an innocent man taking the fall for someone else. It's nothing so romantic than that. He is absolutely, positively guilty.

Don't think that he's a bad man, because he's not. He was a career military man and served several tours in Vietnam. Afterward, he worked as a correctional officer for several years. He wasn't always the greatest father, and was known to cheat on his wife, but he wasn't a bad man.

I'll say it again - he wasn't a bad man, he just had a bad day.

A hell of a bad day, but a bad day all the same. See, money was tight and he didn't know how to tell his wife that the bank was foreclosing on the house. So when the deputy sheriff came with the new owner to evict him from his home, he didn't handle it too well. In addition to trashing the house prior to their arrival, when the deputy knocked on the door, he answered it with a loaded gun. He then proceeded to fire that gun at the deputy and the owner, and succeeded in killing the owner.

After discharging the gun, he retreated into the house and shot himself in the head. The bullet went through his cheek and out his temple.

The man couldn't even kill himself successfully - sad, I know.

I should at this point note a couple of things:
1) He was drunk as a skunk when the police showed up to arrest him.
2) Although he surrendered himself without a fuss, he did claim that he had planted a bomb in the house. There was no bomb.
3) When at the police station awaiting interrogation, there is video tape showing him sitting in a room alone singing "I shot the sheriff, but I should have shot the deputy."

Now, although this all happened in early 2003, my partner didn't know about any of this until late 2003, as her mother didn't bother to tell her about it until then (they had been estranged). When we went to visit him, he was very clear that he had indeed done the deed. When we asked how it all came about, he simply said, as noted above, "I had a bad day."

A bad day indeed, but how many of us truly can say that we're not one bad day of our own away from being in the same place?

Now, I know many readers out there are saying "but I would never kill someone!"

Would you? Probably not. But have you ever had too much to drink? Have you ever done things you regretted while drunk? Have you ever (sober or not) been so angry you've said "I could kill them right now!" or other similar things?

I'd be willing to bet you have.

And maybe, just maybe, a confluence of these sorts of events will lead you to your own bad day. Maybe you won't kill someone. Maybe you'll just drink and drive. Maybe you'll just speed. But maybe you'll run a red light and hit a pedestrian.

Still deny that it could be you? Let's look at something else - how many of us are one or two paychecks away from complete and utter financial ruin? We all know we *should* be saving money, but how many of us do? We're *supposed* to have two years worth of money in savings "just in case." I don't know too many people that have *two months* set aside, let alone too years.

In reality, your security is illusory.

Your freedom is also illusory.

Indeed, your sense of control over your life is illusory.

You may think "I'll never be one of *them*" when you see a homeless person or an inmate. But you're deluding yourself.

The reality it is that you're *already* one of them. You just haven't had your one bad day yet.

I hope beyond hopes that I'll never have my one bad day. But I know I could have one.

And that's why I don't see inmates or homeless people as "the other." I look at them and I see us. Us with one bad day.

This has been a post for LJ Idol. If you liked it and want to vote, the link will be up later in the week.
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I am not a crunchy person.

I mean, I *want* to be a crunchy person....
My chosen profession is crunch-filled
My politics are generally pretty crunchy.
(Except for that little part about being in favor of allowing the death penalty for the supremely un-crunchy, but we won't talk about that right now.)
My closest friends are supremely crunchy.

But I don't recycle because it's inconvenient,
I keep my heat set at 72 or 74 in the winter,
And I'm too damned cheap to buy organic.

It's a lot of work being crunchy.
It's a lot of work, and I'm lazy.

Nonetheless, I want to be crunchy.
I aspire to bring my outer self in line with my inner values.

So one of my New Year's Resolution (if I am indeed being resolute) is to be more crunchy.
I'm attending Nia class and trying not to laugh too hard when we're supposed to "fluff our core."
I'm trying not to tease my best friend for giving homeopathic medicine to her cat.
I've even signed up for some personal therapy - I start tomorrow.

I'm not crunchy yet, but I'm trying.
I'm not crunchy, but I aspire to crunchiness.

Maybe I won't hit Cheeto-level crunchy, but I can aim for being a rice cake.
A lower echelon of crunchability, let's say.

But fuck that organic shit - I'm still cheap.
supremegoddessofall: (hello zombie)
1) First and foremost, a reminder that I went to the most awesome high school ever. Dr. Miller has been reading "How the Grinch Stole Christmas" to students (and now former students' children) for more than 20 years. It's a tradition and we went several times when we were still in NC - bummed we missed it this year. His voice is sort of James Earl Jones-ish.





2) The 10 stages of narrowly avoiding a speeding ticket.

3) One guy, multiple tracks. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] whirled.



4) Dr. Who and Craig Ferguson goodness. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.



5) Shortest real journal article in history. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] wordsofastory.

6) The Dead of Everest. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.

7) Bikini waxes for pre-pubescent children. This is disturbing to me in multiple ways. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] bart_calendar.

8) Assembling the Global Baby. Interesting thinky thoughts on reproductive choices. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

9) I agree with pretty much everything in this article. We need to fix the registry laws. Now. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] phoenixisrisen.

10) The Snake Fight portion of your thesis defense. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

11) This is an incredible video (available on Hulu, called America the Beautiful) about the culture of beauty in the United States. It's very long, so don't click unless you have some time to burn. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] parachles.



12) It's not a good idea to fry gnocchi. Really. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] xiphias.



13) This is kinda sad. Also I'm a geek because I got all of them. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] porcelain72.



14) You don't have to be Jewish to give. Or to laugh. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] fresh_tart.



15) BDSM and Foot Locker. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] felisdemens.



16) Lee and I have strange conversations sometimes.

17) If you hate "Christmas Shoes" like I hate "Christmas Shoes," you should listen to this. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] parachles.

supremegoddessofall: (oh god key)
Behind on my link and media dumpage....

1) The Norton project. Two sons get their father the most awesome Christmas present ever. Long but worth it.



2) Sesame Street meets Old Spice.



3) Amazing makeup skills. Watch a hot girl turn herself into Jared Leto. Someone seriously needs to hire this chick.



4) This pretty much sums up a lot of my objections to Christianity.



5) Fuck hate.



6) You've probably seen this one by now, but just in case you haven't, "The Rent Is Too Damned High" candidate for mayor of New York...



7) So you want to get a PhD in the humanities. Sad but oh-so-familiar to all the doc students out there. My favorite is the part about a minute and a half in when she talks about the ways in which students will be "inspired...."



8) Transgender teen robbed of homecoming crown in Michigan.

9) An interesting article about taking responsibility in the BDSM community.

and to go with it...

The very disturbing Bagley indictment.

10) Freaky facial art. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.

11) How the internet works, in all its recursive glory. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.

12) Tim Minchin is my god. If I, y'know, had a god...



13) How fake money saved Brazil. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

14) Amazing find in an abandoned Parisian apartment. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

15) This will likely disturb you. Brain bleach! Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] esper3k.



16) Etiquette for interacting with the breast cancer patient in your life. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

17) A heartbreaking photo essay about a man's last days with his father.

18) Who else wants to live in Sweden?

19) Things I don't have to think about today.

20) The UK doesn't play around with safety videos. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] esper3k.



21) Missing a dog... Click to enlarge. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.

22) Love the song or hate it, you have to admit that the video is amazingly acted and perfectly captures the story of the song. "Love the Way You Live" - Eminem, featuring Rihanna. And some impressive guest stars. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] bewize.



23) What happens if you get rid of traffic lights? Nothing too scary, as it turns out.

24) "Sexy" Halloween costumes that aren't.

25) You may hate the original, but you'll like this. A cover of Katy Perry's "Teenage Dream." Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] horosha.



26) The first season of Lost, as told in Lolcat. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] chris_walsh.

....and I'm done. Whew!
supremegoddessofall: (value all families)
This is the most powerful "It Gets Better" video I've seen to date, and it comes from my new state (and town next door). Joel Burns is from a small Texas town, son of an actual cowboy, and a current Ft. Worth city councilman. Thanks to [livejournal.com profile] stoney321 for the find.

supremegoddessofall: (Default)
Okay, I've been saving up for a minute...

1) Lady Gaga continues to be awesome. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

2) This woman's writing continues to amaze me.

3) Really close calls. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.



4) A very dark re-envisioning of the Mario Brothers. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] esper3k.

5) Why voice recognition software doesn't work in Scotland. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.



6) An honest lesbian relationship.



7) 32 songs in 8 minutes. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] whirled.



8) In Afghanistan, some girls are boys...at least for awhile. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

9) How not to fake psychiatric symptoms.



10) Counterproductive public service announcements.

11) Irony in action. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] zoethe.



12) The Really, Really Giving Tree.

13) Lesbian soldier ordered to be reinstated. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

14) Neo-Nazis convert to Judaism. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

15) Segway company dies...on a Segway. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

16) So what all is on the Google blacklist, anyway? Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.
supremegoddessofall: (Default)
1) John Stewart is a god. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] nounsandverbs.

The Daily Show With Jon StewartMon - Thurs 11p / 10c
The Parent Company Trap
www.thedailyshow.com
Daily Show Full EpisodesPolitical HumorTea Party


2) Gay culture at West Point. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

3) Best headline ever. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.

4) Ideas that are really bad and backward, regardless of "good intentions."

5) The future of plagiarism.

6) How I'd hack your weak passwords. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] yendi.

7) How Muslims are treated in America. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.



8) Everything is *not* ok. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] horosha.



9) To ma'am or not to ma'am. Funnily enough, this article works well for the class I'm teaching this week. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

10) The most evil alarm clock in the world. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.



11) Why do people do this to themselves? Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.



12) Itty bitty teeny weeny pencil sculptures. So cool! Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.

13) If this dude can be positive about life, we call can. More information about him here. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.



14) More reasons to love Peter Paul and Mary. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] cheshire23.

15) And finally, truer words were never spoken.
supremegoddessofall: (Default)
Prop 8 has been overturned!!!
supremegoddessofall: (Default)
Time for more media dumps.

1) Remember when I had to take magnesium citrate before surgery? This is the funniest magnesium citrate story ever!

2) Why homeopathy is pointless.



3) The history channel is *totally* not believable. Funny stuff, hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] marys_second.

4) A Day in Gay America. Fascinating photo series.

5) Ignore the ad part, I just love Dita von Teese!



6) Funny video by my favorite musician friend Greg Klyma.



7) Ewww. Tons of fat in London sewers. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.

8) Neat T-mobile singalong in Trafalgar square.



9) Barbershop version of "I Like Big Butts." Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] ruisseau.



10) Have a tale of misogyny? Share it here. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

11) What you can learn from The Little Mermaid. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] bart_calendar.



12) It's not dirty, I swear! Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] horosha.

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Might as well unload these before surgery....

1) Bisexual men: The last closet. Interesting article. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

2) Yes, yes, yes, a million times yes. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.



3) Great illustration as to why homeopathy is utter bullshit. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] horosha.

4) Amazing contortionist!



5) Drowning doesn't look like what you think it does.

6) Why we shouldn't just lose our hyphens and become simply "Americans."

7) How not to write about Africa.



8) Newest Old Spice commercial. Yay! Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] chris_walsh.



9) Bizarre archaeological discoveries. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.
supremegoddessofall: (Default)
because that's about all I'm good for today I think...

1) Can you believe that he's 48 years old???



2) Neat stuff. Truly affordable housing with a nice Habitat for Humanity type twist. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rowangolightly.



3) What they *should* have taught you in school

4) I am not a Ke$ha fan. But I love this!



5) Proof that Dr. Who rules. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm



6) Best cease-and-desist letter ever!

7) What I remember most about Legos. So true! Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.

8) The Japanese guide to blood type. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.

9) Racial profiling of a teen with Asperger's. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] stoney321.

10) Did you hear about the neverending Wimbledon game? Some guy liveblogged it. Fun stuff starts around 4 p.m.

11) Fascinating new movie coming out about the alleged female pope. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.

12) The twenty worst names ever. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.

13) How to spot an emotional manipulator. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] deza.

14) Neat pictographic about earth's extreme altitudes. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] wordsofastory.

15) Why you shouldn't go see the Last of the Airbenders movie. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] wordsofastory.
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I am gross and crampy (because you *totally* wanted to know that), so you get a media/link dump instead of a real post....

1) Gay best friends are named prom king and queen, and pretty much no one makes a fuss. Sometimes people inspire me.

2) The most elaborate and ridiculous hankie code I've ever seen. Do people actually do this? Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

3) Interesting article about prostitution in Pakistan. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

4) [livejournal.com profile] zia_narratora's Open Letter to the Men of the World. Don't be this guy.

5) My friend [livejournal.com profile] apocalypticbob's Faceboob video has gone viral! Go Bob, go!



6) I could waste a lot of time on this site.

7) This one is not safe for work.



8) Apparently Splice glorifies rape. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] tamago23.

9) Lessons Disney's princesses teach you. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] bart_calendar.



10) Seriously? In what universe is this guy not some form of perverse pedophile. Cornell doctor removes pieces of young patients' clitorises and then uses vibrators to test their sensitivity as they get older. Yes, you read that right.

And a follow-up article.

11) From [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi, Inspirational graduation speech from a young man with autism.

12) Comedian Carla Zilbersmith died from ALS (Lou Gehrig's disease) last month. Here's an amazing video she recorded prior to her death that was played at her funeral. Simultaneously funny and sad. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] amenquohi.



Zilbersmith's blog is still up, too: http://carlamuses.blogspot.com

Also, there is an upcoming documentary about her life

13) There's an interesting discussion on queer identity going on at [livejournal.com profile] rm's journal.

14) Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] strryeyedgirl.



15)


16) For all the Lost fans. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] strryeyedgirl.

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1) Woman builds incredible dollhouse replica of Bag End.

2) The Price of Sexual Silence. About the need for comprehensive sex education for Texas students, deaf and otherwise.

3) You've gotta love the Onion...


VH1 Reality Show Bus Crashes In California Causing Major Slut Spill

4) Every celiac's worst nightmare.

5) Just because I love Pink.



6) Humorous birth control. (hat tip [livejournal.com profile] tamago23)

7) I think Roger Ebert is rapidly becoming one of the more relevant pundits. He does good movie reviews, too. (hat tip to [Bad username or site: horosha) @ livejournal.com])



9) Quite possibly the stupidest sport ever.

10) A different perspective on Don't Ask Don't Tell.

11) [livejournal.com profile] joeymichaels continues to generate some of the most awesome short fiction.

12) Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] horosha.



13) Librarians parody Gaga. (hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] chris_walsh)



14) 100 signs you're a horrible parent.

15) Worst porn movies ever made.

16)
supremegoddessofall: (gay terror alert)
borrowed from [livejournal.com profile] tamago23. I hadn't seen a queer version of this, but I'm very fond of the Peggy McIntosh article that inspired it....

a list created by students at Earlham College, showing a number of forms of straight (heterosexual) privilege.

* I can be pretty sure that my roomate, hallmates and classmates will be comfortable with my sexual orientation.
* If I pick up a magazine, watch TV, or play music, I can be certain my sexual orientation will be represented.
* When I talk about my heterosexuality (such as in a joke or talking about my relationships), I will not be accused of pushing my sexual orientation onto others.
* I do not have to fear that if my family or friends find out about my sexual orientation there will be economic, emotional, physical or psychological consequences.
* I did not grow up with games that attack my sexual orientation (IE fag tag or smear the queer).
* I am not accused of being abused, warped or psychologically confused because of my sexual orientation.
* I can go home from most meetings, classes, and conversations without feeling excluded, fearful, attacked, isolated, outnumbered, unheard, held at a distance, stereotyped or feared because of my sexual orientation.
* I am never asked to speak for everyone who is heterosexual.
* I can be sure that my classes will require curricular materials that testify to the existence of people with my sexual orientation.
* People don’t ask why I made my choice of sexual orientation.
* People don’t ask why I made my choice to be public about my sexual orientation.
* I do not have to fear revealing my sexual orientation to friends or family. It’s assumed.
* My sexual orientation was never associated with a closet.
* People of my gender do not try to convince me to change my sexual orientation.
* I don’t have to defend my heterosexuality.
* I can easily find a religious community that will not exclude me for being heterosexual.
* I can count on finding a therapist or doctor willing and able to talk about my sexuality.
* I am guaranteed to find sex education literature for couples with my sexual orientation.
* Because of my sexual orientation, I do not need to worry that people will harass me.
* I have no need to qualify my straight identity.
* My masculinity/femininity is not challenged because of my sexual orientation.
* I am not identified by my sexual orientation.
* I can be sure that if I need legal or medical help my sexual orientation will not work against me.
* If my day, week, or year is going badly, I need not ask of each negative episode or situation whether it has sexual orientation overtones.
* Whether I rent or I go to a theater, Blockbuster, an EFS or TOFS movie, I can be sure I will not have trouble finding my sexual orientation represented.
* I am guaranteed to find people of my sexual orientation represented in the Earlham curriculum, faculty, and administration.
* I can walk in public with my significant other and not have people double-take or stare due to our orientation.
* I can choose to not think politically about my sexual orientation.
* I do not have to worry about telling my roommate about my sexuality. It is assumed I am a heterosexual.
* I can remain oblivious of the language and culture of LGBTQ folk without feeling in my culture any penalty for such oblivion.
* I can go for months without being called straight. (I suppose this depends on where you are and who your friends are.)
* I’m not grouped because of my sexual orientation.
* My individual behavior does not reflect on people who identity as heterosexual.
* In everyday conversation, the language my friends and I use generally assumes my sexual orientation. For example, sex inappropriately referring to only heterosexual sex or family meaning heterosexual relationships with kids.
* People do not assume I am experienced in sex (or that I even have it!) merely because of my sexual orientation.
* I can kiss a person of the opposite gender on the heart or in the cafeteria without being watched and stared at.
* Nobody calls me straight with maliciousness.
* People can use terms that describe my sexual orientation and mean positive things (IE “straight as an arrow”, “standing up straight” or “straightened out”) instead of demeaning terms (IE “ewww, that’s gay” or being “queer”).
* I am not asked to think about why I am straight.
* I can be open about my sexual orientation without worrying about my job.


There's a few more I'd add:

* If I am the victim of violence or psychological mistreatment, people won’t tell me that I ‘invited’ or ’caused’ it by being honest about my sexual orientation, or that that mistreatment was my own fault for being honest.
* I can marry my significant other without serious roadblocks. I don’t have to potentially travel to another country or state in order to be married, and I can easily find a church or other religious venue that would be willing to marry us.
* If I do get married, it will be recognized all over the world.
* I don’t risk losing custody of my children due to my sexual orientation.
* If I want to adopt children with my significant other, I know we won’t be rejected as a result of our sexual orientation. Similarly, if my partner has children and they wish for me to adopt them, I know our sexual orientation won't be an issue preventing the adoption.
* If we need to use a sperm donor to have children, I know my significant other and I won’t be refused service at a fertility clinic due to our sexual orientation.

ETA:

* If my long-term partner is hospitalized, I won't be denied the right to be in the hospital room and/or participate in their care as a result of my sexual orientation.
* If my long-term partner dies, I won't be denied fair inheritance due to my sexual orientation.
* When going to meet the family of my partner, I know they won't automatically reject me due to my sex. I won't have to pretend to be just a friend or a room-mate.
* I don't need to worry about losing my volunteer position (such as being a Scouts leader or a Little League coach) if my sexual orientation becomes public knowledge.
* I don't need to worry about losing my military career due to my sexual orientation.
* Nobody claims or insinuates that I am more likely to molest children and/or carry diseases because of my sexual orientation.
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A media dump, while I'm waiting on the realtor to get here. Some serious, some funny....

1) Not embeddable, but here is a video of Trent Reznor's new collaboration with his wife. Good stuff, good stuff. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] felisdemens.

2) Read the whole thing. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] bart_calendar.

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3) Teacher wins ruling on "dirty words" HIV class. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

4) Excellent use of the internet in saving some Russian tourists from a prostitution ring. Worth the long read, I promise, and yes, it has a happy ending! Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] rm.

5) Dear god. I don't think Sesame Street would appreciate the tribute. But you have to admire the artistry. This one is NSFW. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] chaossix6.

Tahuna Breaks - Giddy Up (HD) ...... Leah Morgan from Morten Leirkjaer on Vimeo.



The Sesame Street video it's referencing:



6) Avatar 2 will be *totally* original. Really. We swear. Hat tip to [livejournal.com profile] sorchawench.

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From [livejournal.com profile] felisdemens, Ivan Coyote's ode to femmes. I dare you not to tear up.

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1) What happens when a straight non-Christian man goes undercover to an ex-gay event. Fascinating.

2) The Ghashlycrumb Losties. May be slightly spoilerific if you aren't reasonably up-to-date in watching.

3) Electron Boy to the rescue! I dare you to not be touched. Most awesome Make-a-Wish ever.

4) 80's silliness.

5) More attempts to infantilize women and deprive them of their ability to make adult decisions.

6) Very bizarre Butterfinger ad.

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You need to watch the whole thing to appreciate this; may seem dry at first, but worth it. SFW.

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